I went to a wedding not long ago. The service was at the Presbyterian Church. Presbyterian churches, while handsome, have a distinctively severe, almost coldly classical exterior. Not really my thing. I like unconstrained eccentricity and exuberant imagination in my buildings. I love high Gothic and Queen Anne revival styles (actually, among many other quieter architectural styles as well) and I really love any building with charm. This Presbyterian Church is not charming. Super handsome, yes. Imposing, yes. Charming, not on your life. It feels downright chastening, something which no doubt most of us deserve, but still....
However, the service was lovely and moving. It talked about support from friends and family for the couple (so important, and often not acknowledge how an idle word or comment can undermine) and the couple promised to love and honor each other. The idea of honoring each other really hit me deeply. Thinking "does this honor my spouse? Does this honor my marriage? Does this honor God?" might nip some not-so-good stuff in the bud. But who knows. Maybe it's just not realistic.
I do think it is realistic for this couple. They seem very well suited and I wish them happiness with all my heart, and speaking of honoring, I was truly honored to have been included in the wedding celebration.
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